Morning Affair

My work hour starts at 9AM. I usually stop at Starbucks where my friend works and grab a cup of Grande Latte. I park my car at the parking lot in front of my work and that is my routine.

But about two weeks ago, I saw something interesting that adds to my morning routine. So let's rewind it to two weeks ago.

I got my latte, parked my car and got out of the car. I closed the door when I saw a couple fully making out in the car parked in the distance (but not too far away). I was surprised because I felt like I saw something that I shouldn't see. So I kind of ran to my salon blushing.

The next morning, again, I saw the same couple making out in the same car. They are probably in their early 40's. Now I was like, "Okay... do you guys really need to do this in the middle of parking lot where people can see???"

And I see them again and again and again for the next two weeks. My salon is located at a shopping plaza where ton of people come to eat and shop. My salon is facing the major road, but there are huge trees hiding the view of parking lot. Probably that's why the couple picked the spot right across from my work.

Anyway, I totally knew the couple was having an affair. I'm not stupid, I know exactly what was going on. But seriously, couldn't they find a hotel room??? It's kind of sad that they had to make out in the car - so tiny and so uncomfortable. It would limit the things they would want to do each other. LOL.

Me and my co-workers debriefed and speculated what is going on between them every morning. Some say they are just dating and loving the thrill or they just love each other so much that they have to make out before saying good bye before work. But most of us say, "They are cheating their spouses or at least one of them is!!"

Now, past Monday as I expected them to be at their usual spot, I didn't see the car nor the couple. I thought to myself, "Umm, maybe they left already.."

I walked in to the salon and the girls asked me if I saw the couple. I said, "No" - so we're like, "Oh I wonder what happened to them?" It's funny how we felt the attchment to the morning adulterers. Not to be in a stalking way, but if they chose to make out in front of our work for so long, I do expect them to show up every morning. That's their duty!!!

So, my boss's wife said, "I bet they got caught." -- Ohhh, maybe! Or they just decided to change the location?

Anyway, since I talked about the adulterers, I wanted to list some movies I have seen that involve affair/cheating.

1. Falling in Love: Very classic - kind of heart breaking story, but love it.
2. Fatal Attraction: This movie was really SCARY! I bet many guys who were cheating on their wives at the time decided to stop after seeing this movie.
3. English Patient: One of my favorite movies. Such a beautiful film..
4. Derailed: Very suspenseful and who could resist Clive??
5. Unfaithful: What a steamy movie!!! I was like "WOW! are you serious, Diane Lane???"
6. Rumor Has It: Cute movie just because my Mark Ruffalo is in it.










And! No matter what other people say, my favorite couple on TV was Aiden and Carrie. When she cheated on him with Big, I used to scream at screen, cursing! LOL. Aiden gave her another chance and she broke his heart again. I was pissed! But I am happy that Carrie ended up with Big....

So, everybody, what is your favorite movie that involves infedility??? Or do you hate it?

Would You or Would You Not???

Ok, I have been debating on this question for years. And I hope you can shed some light on the solution for me. What would you do if you find out that your best friend's boyfriend/girlsfriend is cheating on her/him? I don't know why, but this happens to me quite often. And I'm always torn between telling the truth and looking away, and let it take its own course.

Let me list the names of my friends whose significant others being unfaithful without their knowledge. Miss T.S. who was one of my bridesmaid whose boyfriend had constantly cheated on her and she was the only one who didn't know. They broke up two years ago and her new BF told her about her ex and she was really upset that no one told her.

Another friend of mine, Miss T.N's boyfriend also cheated on her many, many times, so her other friends informed her that he's a cheater, but she chose to believe her then boyfriend. They just got engaged and she and her other friends are no longer talking.

My sister-in-law, S's husband, actually he's my hubby's younger brother also constantly cheated on her and they got separated once. While they're separated, he was dating another girl while he was telling my sis-in-law, S that he's not seen (sleeping) anybody.

Now, my best friend Miss K's in love with my brother-in-law, Mr. D (the youngest of all) which I had written a post about them a while back. He pretty much tells Miss K everything, but sometimes his tellig truth means 1/2 truth and 1/2 lie...

Now, all my friends' boyfriends are my husband's friends. So I knew a lot of the things that my friends don't and shouldn't know. They all tell me or at least used to tell me how much they're in love with their men and how wonderful they're. Or sometimes, they tell me they got in the argument and they suspect their men were cheating on them or asked me if he's right for them.

My dilemma is this: if you truly care about your friend, would you tell her the truth which her siginificant other's cheating on her, or because you care about her, would you shut your mouth and hope for the best? I always have to put this nice smile on my face and say "Of course he love you" or "He's a great guy" or something along the line. It hurts me when I have to lie like that, but then what will I accomplish by putting my nose into their relationship and reveal the secret about their men???

Dr. Phil (that's right, Dr. Phil!) once had a caller on the show asking him about the same thing as I am doing it here: her husband's best friend's wife is cheating on the husband and because the husband is such a nice guy, the caller can't stand what's going on. She thinks that the husband should know the truth. Do you want to know Dr. Phil's advise??? He said, "Stay out of it!!!"

He asked the caller, "Why would you want to tell him that his wife is cheating on him? Are you trying to sleep with him? Unless you want to sleep with him, it's non of your business." Take that! Dr. Phil said whether it's morally wrong, it's business between the wife and the husband's and you are not ought to ruin their relationship. He'll find out soon or later or many he'll never finds out. Let them decide what's right for them because in the end, the husband may hate you for telling him the truth.

So, what would you do??? Would you or would you not tell your friend the truth???

Can You Keep a Secret???

So, I listen to Sirius (radio) "Morning Mash with Rich, Ryan and Nicole" on the way to drive my oldest daughter to school every morning. They are funny to listen to. Their topic for today was "Do you keep your secrets from your loved one?" Oh it was very intereting.

One of the DJ's Rich said, "you know, the girls want to throw their secrets to their men's faces." I think I could agree with him. Girls tend to speak and wanting to tell everything in their minds. I often find myself getting into a trouble by saying too much or being honest which included talking about ex's. And I do believe most men don't talk a lot about their past to their girlfriends or wives. My husband doesn't talk alot where I tend to talk about it. I usually don't like secrets because it usually pararells to telling lies in order to keep secrets.
But please don't get me wrong, if my friend ask me to keep a secret, I think I'm the most trusted person to do the part because my friendships with my friends are sacred.

Anyway, so the dj's asked all the listeners bunch of questions; "do you keep secrets or you don't keep secrets. Do you tell your partners your secrets?" -- well many listner called in and one of the female listners said "Well, there are secrets that my husband does't know and he will never know..." Apparently, she was a stripper and also used to date his friend whom her husband hates now. But really, is it that bad to be a stripper? I understand that everybody has a past that not necessary he or she's proud of. I've done pretty shameless things myself. But then, if you marry someone, I think you ought to tell the significant other pretty much everything before you step in to the band of eternity... Don't you agree?

I understand, maybe many guys don't like to know their girlfriends/wives used to strip, but I figure they'll find out soon or later unless you moved to a differnt city or county or even a state???

I have several good friends who used to be strippers. And I have nothing against with it. I mean, they're making their own money, paying taxes and paying bills. Some of them even raised children. People may say, "oh exotic dancers = no class." I disagree 100%. I see so many unclassy people who have good jobs or have ton of money. I am a firm believer that one's classiness doesn't come from the job you have or financial status you have. Well, it's true there are skanky dancers as well, but that apply to any type of people. WIth that said, in my book, people with class is about who you are, how you carry yourself and who know how to treat others with respect. Rich men who treat waitlesses like their maids or servants, those guys have no class. So, my friends take care of themselves, proud of what they used to do and they don't hide their past. I understand some people connect it with self worth and self diginity, but my former dancer friends would say, "Well, that's the only thing would pay me well enough to support my living long time ago."

Well, I kind of got sidetrack here, but all of them are either married or in a relationship now. Their boyfriends or husbands know that they used to strip.. But what a hey, they have different jobs now, enjoying their life and they still can laugh about their past occupation.

I know it's okay to have secrets; they are often for protecting other people's feeling or well being. But if the secrets are to deceive others, then I'm not a big fan. Actually, I know secrets are very complicated and it's not that simple to be black and white..

Questions come to my mind are: Do you have a secret(s), if so, are you willing to keep them forever in your heart???

One Man's Mistake, Actually a HUGE Mistake..

I was kind of surprised to know about Set. Edwards' sex scandal. He had this clean image he presented to the public; a good and a loving husband to a wonderful wife and woman, Elizabeth who's fighting breast cancer for the past four years, and a wonderful father to his children. If anything, he'd be the one to criticize men who are unfaithful to their wives. I think he did that to Bill Clinton. He seemed very sincere and charming.

But, I want to say, "Wake Up America!!!" I don't want to be cynical, but do you think he's the only one who cheats on wife? Many people are doing it behind the closed door. He's not the only one who cheats on their spouses. I hate to see Senator Edward be the scapegoat for so many others who are doing the same thing as he had done and portray as a bad person.

True, he's a political figure (once a presidential candidate) that many had looked up to, admired and trusted and he had no right to break the trust. But he's also a human being who made mistakes. His political life is done. He won't be able to come back. But I'm sure he'll do all he can to build back the relationship with his wife and family, that should be his priority. And I hate to see this situation unfold on TV when I know his wife and family want to deal with it privately (as it reports, him and his wife already talked and have dealt with it since 2006.)

People are angry because they say he lied about it; but what would you? Wouldn't you deny at first? I mean come on.. Well, it's true, he should never betrayed his family and wife, but I'm sure he'll be paying a lot of price for it with his dignity stripped away.....